Parties and my dirty little secret

Yesterday we went to a birthday party for my husband's bestfriend's daughter.

Since it is a holiday here most people are away so their was only family really there.

The mother hired a babysitter for the kids so they could play in the back. But the mom had her hands full serving cake and coffee to the adults. And then abendbrot(evening meal) to the adult guest. She packed nice bubbles and tops(along with the candy) into the giftbags. The little ones are out playing with them now.

Well someone said the K word.(kindergarten) And I could see my hubby trying not to say. That's nice. She won't put them into kindergarden. I sorta stayed next to hubby all afternoon. I was not sure what to talk to the others about.

I've just realized that I am very different then them.(Or maybe it is just my thinking.) but what do I have to talk to them about. How can I start a conversation without insulting someone? The German school system that is boxing my oldest son in or how I am not putting the little ones in kindergarden. How do I explain the latter in my broken German. I consider myself a libertarian. Most people here are socialist. Even my form of Christian is different than most.(Not that most people are christians here.) For as bad as it sounded I did enjoy myself and I know the kids did to.